I will listen to this more than once, Paola and Graham. So much of what you said hit home for me. I truly love helping people but I am guilty of allowing myself to be taken advantage of, not because it feeds my ego, but more that there is a payoff with rescuing people. I need to remember that when I'm feeling that energy drain, that it's not good for either of us. I like the idea of asking for the "paying it forward". And in reality, being seeing as one who is a helper has that under the table payoff. All things to consider and work on! Thank you so much for discussing this topic and offering such helpful advice!
I'm a carer...so it seems I'm just living for others. I don't mind cause I wasn't one to know exactly what I wanted to do with my life anyway. There wasn't any set paths as we started working at a young age to help the family. So even if I wanted to do something outside of our normal life it was hard to do because there were restrictions we had to follow. I guess because of that kind of lifestyle I just did what had to be done without a clear path of what I really wanted in life. Now that I'm a carer full-time and in my early 50's it doesn't seem worth it anymore...I just walk the path that has been given to me until it's closed...I guess.
Thank you for this interesting, fun and enlightening live chat about a very relevant subject. As I listened, took notes, and thought about what you said I was blessed with personal clarity. Thank you, Paola and Graham, for your time and care.
I needed to hear this! Thank you. I needed to hear this definitely because it’s time for me to reeastablish boundaries. If I don’t, it’s going to affect affect me more than it is right now. I am a nurturing person and I always have been, but the hardest thing to do as a nurturing person is to step back and see others that you like or love struggle. However, people need to learn from their own struggles. We can guide them, but we can’t do it for them.
Wow,wow great podcast!!! Had just finished the first day of a wonderful vacation,and was so glad to see the replay of this Divine Timing Podcast. So relaxing to listen. I can certainly see how all the scenarios that you spoke of come into being. Call me fortunate, but I have not found myself in that place. I have helped and been helped but never reaching that degree of dependency. Thank you both for the great conversation. Always so enlightening!!! Great work together. Congratulations for a job well done. Love you guys!❤️🙏🏻☺️
Thank you for sharing your life experiences! I left a narcissist relationship and my son stayed with me. He has a learning disorder and his father had given him a hard time about troubles and mistakes his has had in his life. I think he is depressed and have offered to help him get help. He is 33 and has stopped working and does not go out unless it’s family or a friend he has that has cancer. I know I have enabled him but it is draining my energy and life. I have been supported him and keep asking him to get a job and go on with his life… nothing!! I am thinking about asking him to leave but his father is not part of his life, I have guilt, I have worries about this and stress, but asking him to go will eat me up! I have prayed a lot about this..I don’t know, but I would like my life back?????
Thank you P & G it was a great discussion and live :)
I will listen to this more than once, Paola and Graham. So much of what you said hit home for me. I truly love helping people but I am guilty of allowing myself to be taken advantage of, not because it feeds my ego, but more that there is a payoff with rescuing people. I need to remember that when I'm feeling that energy drain, that it's not good for either of us. I like the idea of asking for the "paying it forward". And in reality, being seeing as one who is a helper has that under the table payoff. All things to consider and work on! Thank you so much for discussing this topic and offering such helpful advice!
I'm a carer...so it seems I'm just living for others. I don't mind cause I wasn't one to know exactly what I wanted to do with my life anyway. There wasn't any set paths as we started working at a young age to help the family. So even if I wanted to do something outside of our normal life it was hard to do because there were restrictions we had to follow. I guess because of that kind of lifestyle I just did what had to be done without a clear path of what I really wanted in life. Now that I'm a carer full-time and in my early 50's it doesn't seem worth it anymore...I just walk the path that has been given to me until it's closed...I guess.
Thank you for this interesting, fun and enlightening live chat about a very relevant subject. As I listened, took notes, and thought about what you said I was blessed with personal clarity. Thank you, Paola and Graham, for your time and care.
I needed to hear this! Thank you. I needed to hear this definitely because it’s time for me to reeastablish boundaries. If I don’t, it’s going to affect affect me more than it is right now. I am a nurturing person and I always have been, but the hardest thing to do as a nurturing person is to step back and see others that you like or love struggle. However, people need to learn from their own struggles. We can guide them, but we can’t do it for them.
Wow,wow great podcast!!! Had just finished the first day of a wonderful vacation,and was so glad to see the replay of this Divine Timing Podcast. So relaxing to listen. I can certainly see how all the scenarios that you spoke of come into being. Call me fortunate, but I have not found myself in that place. I have helped and been helped but never reaching that degree of dependency. Thank you both for the great conversation. Always so enlightening!!! Great work together. Congratulations for a job well done. Love you guys!❤️🙏🏻☺️
Paola & Graham thank you both for discussing a meaningful topic.
I have taken some quiet time to reflect & much prayer about my situation & of course will consistently be in prayer on this!!!
After watching the replay I have taken some great advice away and have processed them deeply to enable my chest to feel lighter :)
I have made some notes to myself to ensure healthy boundaries are set for all concerned 💐🙏
Thank you for sharing your life experiences! I left a narcissist relationship and my son stayed with me. He has a learning disorder and his father had given him a hard time about troubles and mistakes his has had in his life. I think he is depressed and have offered to help him get help. He is 33 and has stopped working and does not go out unless it’s family or a friend he has that has cancer. I know I have enabled him but it is draining my energy and life. I have been supported him and keep asking him to get a job and go on with his life… nothing!! I am thinking about asking him to leave but his father is not part of his life, I have guilt, I have worries about this and stress, but asking him to go will eat me up! I have prayed a lot about this..I don’t know, but I would like my life back?????
I loved telling the story and I'm reading it translate Portuguese to English, it's a beautiful story
Thank you Paola and Graham, it's such a blessing!
Paola and Graham are very important to understand clearly and very good learning.
Have a blessed week!
Goodnight!🙏🏻💜